What we see in others is really what we see in ourselves. We can’t experience ugliness in someone else unless we’ve first looked within, chosen the mind of ugliness (ie. the ego), and now believe we are seeing it on the outside.
In truth, everyone around us is either extending love or crying out for it. It doesn’t matter what form the crying out takes, it is still true.
A Course in Miracles teaches us that “fear and love are the only emotions of which you are capable.” And the purpose of fear is to conceal love.
When we choose the ego mind, we are intentionally concealing love. So when we look out at the world, other people, and our own body, we will see some form of fear materialized. Those emotions include anxiety, sadness, anger, resentment, emptiness, longing, and so on.
But when we choose the mind of the Holy Spirit – the only emotion we experience is love, which expresses itself as joy, happiness, and peace.
When we hear our brother crying out for love – meaning that we see beyond the fog of form which disguises his crying out as an attack – then our own call for love has been answered.