Today let’s unpack anger a bit.
Every one of us feels justified in our anger. Meaning that when we get angry, we feel there is a good reason for it.
Somebody did or said something they shouldn’t have. A situation didn’t work out the way we wanted it to. Or maybe we even got angry at ourselves for our own misstep.
The why we’re angry doesn’t really matter. What matters is that we are angry.
This question from A Course in Miracles makes it so clear:
When you are angry, is it not because someone has failed to fill the function you allotted him? (T-29.IV.4)
The key phrase in this question is “the function you allotted him.”
We allotted a function to another person, and they didn’t fulfill their function.
And that’s why we’re angry.
It really has much less to do with them and everything to do with us. We set them up.
When we stop allotting functions to others, we have no grounds for any judgment, especially anger.
The key is not tying our sense of peace and wellbeing with what others say and do. People will always trip and fall – as will we.
But when we can instead see everyone (including ourselves) through the judgment-free lens of love, we’ll never feel anger again.