When I’m upset with someone I care about, I am saying you did (or didn’t do) something that I wish you hadn’t. In fact, I am judging them – or at the very least, I am judging their actions.
But if I were looking through the eyes of love and saw their true nature, there could be no judgment. Consider these lines from A Course in Miracles:
Love brings no guilt at all, and what brings guilt cannot be love and must be anger. All anger is nothing more than an attempt to make someone feel guilty.
So the next time we are considering what love is, let’s remember that if we are upset, disappointed, frustrated, or angry with anyone then we are not extending love. Instead, we are projecting guilt.